Domestic Violence Awareness During the Christmas Season: A Call to Action
As we embrace the festive spirit of Christmas, it is essential to shine a light on an often hidden and painful reality: domestic violence. Christmas time is typically associated with joy and togetherness; however, this can unfortunately become a time of increased risk for many individuals and families. Victoria Police has issued a crucial reminder that the Christmas period ranks among the most prevalent times for family violence, with assaults surging by an alarming 78% on Christmas Day and Boxing Day, according to the Bureau of Crime Statistics and Research (BOCSAR).
This spike in violence is not merely a statistic; it represents the suffering of countless individuals who may feel trapped in cycles of abuse, sometimes known as a ‘Trauma Bond’. It’s a reminder that beneath the façade of Christmas and Holiday season happiness, many are living in fear or have been abandoned as punishment and a way to control. Domestic violence can take many forms, and it often goes unnoticed by those around it. As friends, family members, and neighbours, we have a responsibility to be vigilant and proactive in recognising the signs of abuse.
Take a moment to reflect on your surroundings during this period. Pay attention to how partners interact with each other. Is one partner easily angered or dismissive? Do they belittle or joke at their partner’s expense in front of others? These subtle behaviours can be red flags that indicate deeper issues. It is essential to remember that some of the friendliest and most charming individuals can have a completely different persona behind closed doors, exhibiting controlling or abusive behaviours that are hidden from public view.
For instance, consider the case of a woman who endured unimaginable pain, having her fingernails ripped out simply for running late during a work assignment all watched on by a friend who felt helpless and the client also aware of the anger during the meeting. The victim then left with threats of ‘I hope you bleed to death’. Stories like this may sound extreme, but they are a grim reality for many. This festive season, let us commit to being more than passive observers. If you notice something amiss, speak up. Engage in conversations that might help someone feel safe enough to share their experiences.
It’s also vital to understand the psychological aspects of domestic violence. Victims may find themselves in a ‘trauma bond’, oscillating between moments of love and instances of hurt, leading them to question their worth and reality. These are merely known as ‘Bread Crumb, moments. Don’t fall into the trap of believing that love can excuse violence or manipulation. Remember, all moments with your partner you should feel same. Some of us try to show our love through always buying or paying for things or we rely on them for a work relationship none of this should never dictate your emotional wellbeing.
If you suspect that someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, reach out. Encourage them to seek help and let them know they are not alone. Offer support, whether that means listening without judgment, helping them find resources, or simply being there for them when they need it most.
As a society, we all have a role to play in combating domestic violence of any kind. This Christmas, let us prioritise the safety and wellbeing of those around us. If you witness or suspect abuse, report it. Do not wait for years to pass before you decide to act. The time to speak up is now, and your voice could be the lifeline someone desperately needs.
By fostering awareness and compassion, we can help create a safer environment for everyone. Let’s make this holiday season one of hope, healing, and the collective commitment to stand against domestic violence. Together, we can make a difference.
If you need help and are experiencing this please visit https://www.vic.gov.au/family-violence-statewide-support-services
